• Undercurrent

    Sometimes I get the distinct impression
    There’s an undercurrent beneath us
    Threatening to pull us apart
    And lay waste to my fragile heart.

    I question if you would be similarly affected
    Is what I see a careful act?
    I wish I could name this strange emotion
    But instead I sit with this unsettling commotion.

    The Unknowing.
    I keep watching. Waiting. Observing.
    A part of me wants to declare this chapter over.
    Finality would resolve the ambiguity.

    But I resist.
    I keep watching.
    I keep waiting.
    For you to leave I suppose.

    But you keep returning.
    Each day you’re there.
    Each day I see your effort.
    In the past I’ve been wrong to make those things mean something about me.

    Maybe you don’t stay
    Because of me or even because of us
    Maybe you stay
    Because of what leaving would mean to you.

    For the time being you’re still here
    And in those moments we’re together I’m relieved and I breathe
    But when we’re apart I can’t help but hold my breath and wonder
    Will the current pull us under?

  • Precipice

    Standing on a precipice
    Looking back at all the years gone by
    Remembering my beautiful children
    When they were little and wide-eyed.

    Things are about to change
    A chapter ending
    And new doors opening
    Lives changing

    The time marched by so quickly
    But the struggle made it feel like it was dragging
    Things often felt so difficult in the moment
    That the beauty remained concealed

    But now as those years are ending
    The beauty is revealed
    And the nostalgia hits me like a truck
    And I am stunned

    My babies are babies no more
    About to be out in the world on their own exploring
    How much time left do I have to watch and learn from them
    How much time do I have left?

    Would that I could go back and do those years over
    To truly savor how precious and sweet they were
    Without the burden of worry weighing me down
    But with the wisdom I’ve gained since

    But there is no going back
    I’ve become that older woman
    Years ago I rolled my eyes at the reminder, but now I’m doing the reminding
    “Your children really will grow up too fast”

    Hold them like they are fragile
    You’ll blink and they’ll be grown
    For a brief moment you’ll see the world through their eyes
    With wonder and awe at the unknown

  • The Hall of Mirrors

    But be warned, oh seeker of knowledge, of the thicket of opinions and of arguing about words — from Siddhartha by Herman Hesse

    Whoever fights monsters should see to it that in the process he does not become a monster. And if you gaze long enough into an abyss, the abyss will gaze back into you.” — Friedrich Nietzsche

    Mirrors, reflections of us. Everyone and everything is a reflection of us. Some things are partial mirrors and some are more complete mirrors. Some things reflect things we want to see or are comfortable seeing, and others show us things we don’t want to see. Sometimes what we see triggers us, usually because we are reminded of something deep within that we refuse to acknowledge or accept.

    Many of us endlessly stare into the hall of mirrors that is social media. We convince ourselves that there is value in what we see- something we are learning or someone we are connecting to, but it is only an illusion. We have become passive consumers of things that superficially resemble something we desire. We are drawn to the illusion because of its collective nature. It’s because so many of us are represented there that we justify mindlessly spending so much time there, but the reflection is partial and distorted, and in consuming the distortion we are also distorted.

    Our true nature is more connected to the natural world than many of us understand. Those of us who are drawn to nature intuitively understand this, but many cannot put it into words. When we are outside exploring this beautiful planet we connect with the universal consciousness and we feel strengthened. Ideas come to us in this space, sometimes so many of them it’s hard to decide which ones to act on. The Universe is breathing around us- the sky, the wind, the clouds, the trees- they are interwoven, interconnected, and inextricably tied to us.

    Our modern society has become disconnected, foreign, and unsettling. In nature we are made whole again. In nature we commune with parts of ourselves that our society endlessly works to separate us from. We are all parts to the same whole. We need the world and each other, but we are made to believe our ideas are products of our own minds independent of the environment around us. We allow hate to foment and divide us further, often in the name of politics or religion, and we feel justified in our hatred. In reality, our hatred of someone else is just hatred of a part of ourselves.

    Every day The Distortion becomes stronger, and it consumes and reduces The Natural World as it grows. More wild space is conquered by our need to create factories, businesses, data centers, and roads. We spend less time outside and we eat less natural foods. We are further distanced from the planet, each other, and ourselves. Loneliness grows, and despair grabs hold of multitudes and pulls them down. Meaning and purpose feel like abstract and unattainable concepts in our nihilistic dystopia. The Distortion is powerful, but The Universe is stronger. If only we could more fully grasp the power of connecting to it.

    The sad thing is so many resist exiting the illusion. The Universe and the collective consciousness that we are all a part of is simple by design, and all encompassing. All that one needs to exit the illusion is the slightest desire to do so, and the willingness to give The Universe the space to speak through us. Once that space is granted, it’s as if the light inside of us is magnified, perhaps more fully connecting to its original source. Some call that God, the Universe, Light, or Love. Maybe those are just different words to describe the same thing. Maybe because our individual experience and ego flavors our perception we are inclined to use certain words to describe what we perceive. But perhaps they are all just different words to describe the same thing.

    There is a spiritual awakening occurring. As each day passes and the inevitable race to AGI continues, more people are waking up to the hollowness of these endeavors. They are beginning to see through the illusion, and what they see on the other side is darkness, misery, and despair.

    There is a massive paradigm shift occurring but most are wildly unaware. A few discerning individuals are sensing that religion and science are heading towards a great unification. The chasm that has existed between them for hundreds of years is shrinking. It’s as if humanity’s collective consciousness is evolving past the barriers of old. The tools that are used to explain them: logic/reason for science on one hand and emotion for religion on the other, are merging. Humans are waking up to fact that they are complete beings with all of these faculties, and one set of tools is not better than the other. Human ego tries to convince us that we are superior to the humans who favor the other tools, but we are all still humans. We are all still flawed with our limited perception and the constant death-walk of our existence looming over us. We are all terrified of what lies ahead.

    We busy ourselves by creating societies, political systems, religions, philosophies, and by studying the natural world. We build tools to make our lives easier and to give us “more time”, but we will never truly give ourselves more time. Time is an overlay that our perception is bound by, and no matter what our philosophies and deep thinking may come up with, we will never escape it. Perhaps one day we will, at the same time we shed this earthly form and experience death. What is on the other side? Anything? Nothingness?

    What I believe does not matter.

    What I know remains.

    This Universe is a great mystery and it has been mysterious as long as humans have existed to perceive it. It is beautiful, terrifying and magical. It can teach us about ourselves as long as we are willing to peek behind the curtain and see through the illusion that is the human ego. We are here for connection and for love. We are not here to argue over words, land, and belief systems. We are here to learn from each other, to be in awe at everything around us, and we are here to grow.

  • The Cult of Fake Nice People

    Inspired by Paul Kingsnorth’s book Against the Machine, that I am currently reading.

    People in corporate American have been infected by the plague of “fake nice”, a direct consequence of the feminization of western culture.

    As the machine that humanity built over time evolves and turns each of us into cogs, some are quick to be converted- their personalities are eager to check out, be compliant, and play the game all the while numbed out. SSRIs sped up that process, designed by The Machine.

    Inconvenienced by grief? There’s a pill for that. Does your attention span get in the way of productivity? There’s another pill for that. Do you suffer from unpleasant side effects? Take a DNA test to find out which one is the best for you!

    There are a few hold outs: unmedicated humans who still struggle with emotions and often can’t contain them. The fake nice plague grates on them like poison ivy, and causes them to bristle and chafe and eventually to explode. No one is fully human except for people like them, and the feeling of being in The Uncanny Valley is discombobulating. Sometimes they can’t tell which way is up, but they refuse to give in and check out and play the game as everyone else does. Eventually they get pushed down by the machines collective parts and succumb. They’ll lose their desire to give a fuck, show up, do a good job, and get up the next day and do it all over again.

    When they give up, the companies they worked for will continue to operate under the delusion that passivity and superficial niceness are the way. There are layers to every gesture, facial expression, and phrase, and the cult members drive themselves nuts trying to maintain their feeble grip on their fragile place as a cog in the machine. They form alliances and work together to sabotage the resistance, unaware that they are only inching closer to losing their humanity in the process.

    Many have been conditioned to believe certain emotions are unacceptable and deserve to be punished. The few that resist understand the power of forgiveness and how directing that power towards oneself first is the key to real happiness. They feel sadness for the rats trapped in the maze, chasing money and power and security in a world that doesn’t understand real peace. Every so often, the chaos that runs through the veins of the members of The Cult causes casualties, but The Machine gladly accepts those sacrifices in its incessant goal of subjecting humans to complete algorithmic domination.

    Occasionally artists and writers come along with keen insights about the delusion we have all fallen victim to. The Machine will consume their art by ingesting it into an LLM and deciding it’s not statistically significant to see the light of day. True leaders will vanish, and only the weight of collective thought will have power. Eventually the outliers of the human race will cease to exist. IQ distributions will coalesce around mediocre intelligence levels and genius will vanish entirely. We will become homogeneous, unemotional, and optimized to benefit The Machine.

  • The Real Start of AI

    It’s 2025 and the world is constantly talking about AI. Every major podcast seems to have had multiple guests on talking about the dangers of AI and the societal havoc it will wreak if it remains unchecked. There’s so much hype on this subject that many are warning that the bubble will soon burst. Some worry about what will happen to to the arts, and many worry about what will happen to jobs. They are all missing the most destructive things about it.

    It didn’t really begin in 2025. If I had to guess, I’d say it was around 2008 or maybe 2009. I don’t remember the exact year, but the experience will forever be seared into my memory. I suppose it’s become my biggest regret.

    I was working as a freelance software engineer and the contracts I was picking up were few and far between. Someone found me online somehow and emailed me about a project they wanted help with. I took a phone call and discussed the project and the payment but never met this customer in person. It was a man who spoke great English but with an accent I did not recognize, and he wanted me to scrape data from a webpage of Facebook and then comment on certain users posts. The users were all beautiful young American women, and I was intrigued. I was just a lonely awkward autistic nerd after all. This project looked interesting, at least at first.

    He gave me a list of users and I wrote them down. I wrote the code to scrape the webpage and logic to “watch” the users that I was following through a fake account I setup. I used fake images and made it look like an average looking young American man who had a simple profile and only a few posts. Nothing too flashy. I didn’t want anyone to interact with the account after all. If they did, they would go ignored.

    The instructions were simple. At first I was only to automate the posting of innocuous comments on the posts that these girls were making. The comments would come shortly after the post went up. The logic wasn’t even hard, I didn’t need to understand what their post was about, I just needed to put up a comment and tell them they were smart or looked good today or some other shallow nonsense. I did as I was requested and the job paid well, much more than the other contracts I had been taking up. At this time, those were often around $100/hour of actual time spent. This contract was $500/hour.

    The list of users grew quickly and I had written a framework that allowed me to scale easily. I just had to make some configuration changes without changing any of my code and BAM, the new user would be receiving comments on their videos immediately. I had even configured the list of comments so that I could add new ones easily and the code would rotate through them so they wouldn’t feel repetitive.

    About 6 months in, after we had scaled up to watching and interacting with over a thousand pre-selected users (I have no idea how they were chosen) things changed. I started to receive a different list of users, some girls and others were boys, and my instructions were to post negative comments. I didn’t like the direction of this, so my reluctance caused my customer to give me explicit instructions on the comments that I would make. Most of them were slightly insulting, but many of them were outright rude. I used my framework to scale up easily, yet again, and the automated-insult-framework was born. The initial users who were receiving nothing but compliments were now receiving a mixture of compliments and insults. At this time I had several fake user accounts in play, and they would all post comments from my framework on the same users.

    I was curious about what the negative comments would do, so I opened another fake account but I isolated it away from the others so none of it would tie together. I also used a virtual private network to use a server in a different country just in case Facebook was logging my IP. I wanted to make sure the account would in no way be tied to the insult-framework accounts.

    I watched some of the older posts on one especially beautiful girl’s page. Her name was Autumn and she was a college student in Iowa. She had long blonde hair and she was stunning, but in the girl next door sort of way. She was unassuming and adorable. I read the comments on those posts, and noticed that she was paying attention to the comments and she usually responded to many of them. In her videos she was glowing, so excited about life and happy to talk to her growing audience. She had replied to many of the automated comments with a “Thank you!”.

    As I watched more of her videos, her demeanor began to shift. It was as if she was beginning to lose her normal bubbly personality and she was looking for feedback about how to be more entertaining. Some of her videos made me feel terrible. Occasionally she’d talk about her struggles trying to get more followers and trying to “remain relevant”. She wanted to be a better entertainer, and her own personality was disappearing. Her content was changing. Her pictures became more seductive. She wore makeup. She was becoming a caricature, a dancing monkey. Some of her followers would give her well intentioned advice, and she would take it. She’d make a video doing what these people would suggest, only to be met by a chorus of insults from guess who? That’s right, my automated-insult-framework.

    I was really struggling with this. For several months things remained as they were, and I was being paid more than just my hourly development rate. I think my customer knew that I was not thrilled with what was occurring. He offered to shift how I was being paid, since I was maintaining this application I had built, running it on my own servers and making changes every time Facebook made an update that broke my code. My new contracted rate was $15K per month.

    A few more years passed like this. I occasionally checked in on some of the users and was disheartened by what I saw. All of their personalities were shifting, and not in good ways.

    One day, my customer called me up and told me to make some changes so that if a post was made that used certain words, the comment that would be triggered would be a suggestion for the user to kill themselves. I refused to do it, and then the offer came. The customer wanted to pay me $500k to hand over all the code I had written and walk away as if I had never been involved.

    I took the offer.

    I will always regret that decision and hope one day I will be able to reverse what I helped set in motion.

  • The Instruction Manual From The Universe

    Ever notice how after a storm, the sky is clear and everything looks so defined and the light reflects brilliantly on the surface of the sky and the mountains? There seems to be a peacefulness to it that sadly never seems to last because the pollution rises up and quickly obscures our view. Luckily the storm will eventually return to cleanse the sky again, and bring with it the fleeting clarity of vision and austere serenity.

    What if that was a symbolic message to us from the universe? What if that was a message to us from our higher selves?

    The emotional storms inside of us often stir things up and cloud our vision, but on occasion we cry and for a moment the confusion and overwhelm passes and we feel lighter. We sense that once again, albeit often too briefly, that everything will be ok. We feel the peacefulness and the relief in that moment. Those moments buoy us up and we continue on, through the cycle again, often clueless to the pattern.

    Our teardrops nourish our souls similar to how raindrops nourish the Earth, but the tears of the Earth are purified in a way that our tears are not. The patterns are all around us. The instruction manual has been right before our eyes the entire time. What do you see?

  • The Keep

    Some say that “past is prologue”. Others say “the end is in the beginning”. Looking back at the early weeks of my past relationships, I see the clues about their future demise. I ignored the omens I suppose. The older I get, the more aware I am that I am ignoring them in the moment. The bricks to my future walls were there in all their various shapes and sizes, waiting for the excitement and the newness to pass before the time was right to begin construction on The Keep.

    Most people enter new relationships with the castle walls around their heart already constructed. There are things they won’t talk about and details they refuse to share. As time goes on and comfort grows, they may begin to tear the bricks down one by one, but some never will. They’ll live in the comfortable shade behind their walls forever, never really letting anyone in and always wondering why they feel so alone.

    I’m not like that. Many times in my life I wished that I was. It’d be easier to hold someone at a distance and essentially use them, without letting them get close to my heart, but that is not how I operate. I let people in, until they reveal they don’t deserve to be there and I have to come up with a plan to forcefully evict them. My eviction plan takes way too damn long, since I’m preoccupied with building The Keep around my heart one brick at a time. It takes me awhile to even notice that I have been building The Keep, and once I notice it is a foregone conclusion that I will end the relationship soon. As soon as the first brick is laid, I am withdrawing. I am speaking less because I don’t feel like they are listening, or I am doubting every word I want to say because I have been criticized for the words I’ve chosen. My desire to be around them begins to wane because it takes all the energy I have to walk the imaginary tightrope they are constructing with their criticisms. I can’t say certain things, I can’t talk about certain topics, and I can’t let myself get heated on any topic because I’m either embarrassing them or disturbing their peace. Even if I manage to walk the tight rope, it is never good enough, because they will continue to remind me of all the times I fell off of it before.

    There is no grace. There is no peace. These are things I only know when I’m alone. So The Keep must be built, and I build a new one for every lover that comes along and treats me like I’m the drawbridge to some better castle.

    I’ll continue to build The Keep. Once it’s constructed, I’ll build the moat and put a dragon in it too. Maybe this time it’ll keep the trolls away. If only I could learn how to stay within the walls, instead of running to the open fields of flowers where it’s so warm and beautiful, only to be seduced by yet another Knight In Good Enough Armor that makes me want to leave the open fields and trade the sun on my skin for walls, corridors, and rooms no one can go in.

  • Sharp Edges

    Be careful with your sharp edges.

    The more time that goes on, the more exposed to them I become.

    Eventually they’ll cut me. I’ll bleed profusely and our love will be fatally wounded, draining away more quickly that either of us could’ve imagined.

    You’ve begun to bump into me with your not-so-blunt edges, and as they grate against me I hold my breath and let my irritation pass. In the moment, I give you the benefit of the doubt: you did not mean to nick me with your tone, your casual judgments, or your quick criticisms.

    Over time as the subtle wounds I’ve accumulated add up, you become more brazen, uninhibited by what appears to be my nonreactive state, and your edges sharpen.

    I wonder how many times you’ve been here. I wonder how much shame resides behind your walls. How much you’ve forgiven yourself for the things in you that accidentally or perhaps intentionally harmed others.

    I could answer these questions myself, but the truth is I already have and that’s all that really matters.

    Please remember, I am not your whetstone.

  • The Strangling Power of Words

    Be careful with the words you choose
    To think, to say, to write
    Sometimes a seemingly innocuous comment
    Will morph into a nasty blight

    Be careful with the words you spin
    Around that great big head
    Weapons disguised as intellect
    Can stir up some awful dread

    Be careful with the words you speak
    To the ones you cherish most
    What may start off as a well intentioned reply
    Will land a regretted riposte

    Be careful with the words you write
    The least ephemeral of the three
    Their permanence may prove cataclysmic
    With interpretations as mercurial as the sea

  • Behind My Eyes

    Do you see the sadness
    That’s hiding behind my eyes?
    The pain that I carry
    The weight that’s heavy on my soul

    Do you sense the burdens
    That so many have placed on me
    Do you feel how spent I am
    What is it you think you see?

    Every day they need me
    To be strong for them
    Every day they bleed me
    Or do they feed me, instead

    Life is so complex
    And needs are an intricate mess
    Where do they end and I begin?
    I’m not sure I’m doing my best

    Each day I press on
    And do what they need from me
    Each day I’m closer to death
    And in that space I’ll breathe

    Some burdens I embrace
    My beautiful children four
    Other weights I’d discharge
    The ex I showed the door

    The career that used to hold me up
    No longer holds such sway
    I will continue as long I must
    Until that far off imagined day

    Do I hold on just for them?
    If I let go would they succumb?
    I used to know these answers
    But now I feel so numb

    I suppose for them I’m alive
    They motivate me to survive
    But as I pivot to the empty nest
    I hope I’ll learn to thrive

    All these years and all this time
    I thought I was teaching them to fly
    But life is so much more sublime
    Turns out they were teaching me the why